Weather Forecast March 2019
Let’s say that you are a TV weather person. You are popular and well paid because of your appreciated personality. After three straight weeks of blizzard conditions surrounding your New York studio, you decide that predicting more snow could impact your ratings. Though you know it isn’t true, you predict rain to retain your image. When it snows the next day, your image is tarnished anyway. But hey, your predictions are wrong in most cases. The difference is the “why” of what you did.
When I was six years old, my favorite babysitter Dorothy used to bring toys and craft projects to our evenings together. Once she brought more; she brought her boyfriend. He arrived after my parents had left. They spent the evening making out on our couch. When mom and dad got home, they knew something wasn’t right so they asked me a series of questions. I was torn, because I knew that what I was saying was going to get Dorothy in trouble. I liked her and didn’t want to lose her as my sitter.
The truth is not relative. Having an opinion about the color red does not change its light spectrum position. There are times when the truth must be spoken regardless of the consequences. When a child runs into traffic, you scream a warning. When someone you love is making a dangerous decision, your attitude should be similar.
Telling someone they are heading down the wrong path could end a friendship. They might think you are being too pushy, too goody-two-shoes, or too condemning. Boldness in these cases is radical and personally dangerous, but if we love the other person, we must take the risk.
Of course you warn your friend! What else could you do?
“He who rebukes a man will in the end gain more favor than he who has a flattering tongue. The prudent see danger and take refuge, but the simple keep going and suffer for it. If anyone turns a deaf ear to the law, even his prayers are detestable. He who conceals his sins does not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy.” – Proverbs of Solomon the Wise King.